As I get prepared for my next coaching session with Nicola my Wealth Coach, I thought I'd explain what benefits I gain from a coaching relationship ...
In fact, I now have several coaching relationships. Nicola Cairncross (just mentioned) who has helped me put my website together, Perenna Fleming who was my personal coach on my training programme and continues to coach me. There are also informal and mutual coaching relationships with colleagues who I trained with and who are now masterful coaches in their own right.
There's a coach out there for anything you care to achieve.
I am not going to go into the semantics of a coach (mentor, counsellor, facilitator, therapist etc). That really bores me. All I'm interested in is the results I personally get. You may have all sorts of descriptions for the person who helps you in your journey in life - it doesn't really matter.
Life is a journey and not a destination. We know this at heart really, don't we? Because as soon as we achieve something, we revel in it for a while, then we're onto the next thing. This is beautifully explained in the book Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks.
It often takes alot of effort to get moving once you've been stuck in a pattern of immobilisation for some time. This might be from stress, fear, ignorance, habit or the comfort and familiarity of your present situation. My experience in my former teaching job taught me that. However, if you have a gnawing sense of dissatisfaction about what you're currrently doing, then in order to be truely happy you will eventually have to do something about it.
5 Benefits of Coaching:
I'm held Accountable
All my coaching relationships hold me in some way to account. The sessions aren't static. They require some choices, actions, acknowledgment - depending on the area you are being coached on. This will be followed through in the next coaching session. I'm given some 'homeplay' to complete before my next session. This step by step approach works for my busy lifestyle.
This leads me nicely onto my next point ...
It's Regular & Saves Time
Once you've taken the first step and are committed to action then it's important to keep the momentum going. My sessions are on a set date and time and I don't have to leave my house. It's done over the phone, by emails and via the internet. Simple.
It Accelerates my Learning
Yes, I could do this on my own, go on a course, talk to friends and family and on occasion this is what I do. However, I also enjoy having access and learning from experts in their field using an online facility and teleseminar format. Why do it the hard way or reinvent the wheel when they've made the mistakes for you and have spent time learning their craft? That's what you're paying them for.
I Model their Behaviour
I want some of what they've got! What thinking, attitudes and behaviour made them successful? It's important that you pick a person who you trust and are comfortable with, who walks their talk and is at the place that you want to be. They don't have to be perfect by the way! I've learnt so much from people who are not. As long as they're open and honest - I'm happy.
It Works
For this I look at the evidence in my own life. I'm a coach, property investor, I've built my website, I've started to hold workshops, seminars and talking engagements about what I do. I've let go (and am still letting go) of fears, habits and beliefs that were sabotaging my chances of success.
There's still more to learn but I know I don't want to wake up in years to come and say I didn't go for my dream.
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